Дети и родители

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Взаимоотношения родителей и детейРодителями не рождаются. Мы все рождаемся детьми. Потом взрослеем, обзаводимся своими малышами. И, в конце концов, сталкиваемся с той же проблемой, с которой сталкивались многие поколения родителей до нас. Мы и наши дети, такие долгожданные, такие заранее любимые. 

Наши дети  и мы, их родители, которых не выбирают. Можем ли мы сказать, что отношения между нами идеальны? Что мы – отличные родители, а наши дети – именно такие, какими мы их видели в своих мечтах? Что мы ждем друг от друга?

Дети и родители: отношения детей и родителей

Мы не рождаемся педагогами. Наши отношения с нашими детьми – это опыт, который мы получили от  своих родителей и те ошибки, которые мы совершаем сами. Наши дети – это бесценный дар, но как часто мы видим их своей собственностью,  совершенно забывая, что даже только родившийся ребенок – уже личность, о чем он и сообщает своим криком.  Понимаем ли мы их? А понимают ли дети нас? Дети и родители – одна из самых сложных систем  социума.

Как строятся отношения детей и родителей?  Лежат ли в их основе взаимопонимание, любовь и уважение, ответственность? Очень часто родители, воспитывая своего ребенка, на первое место ставят воплощение своих амбицией, своих нереализованных  желаний, достижение ребенком тех высот, каких, может быть, не смогли достичь сами, они воспринимают его почетной грамотой за свой труд воспитания. Изначально  же дети смотрят на свои родителей совсем по-другому, прежде всего они ждут от них заботы и любви.  И это – причины первых конфликтов.  Родители ждут от ребенка успехов, а ребенок хочет поделиться с ними своими первыми простыми радостями, яркими  впечатлениями. Как часто родители вместо того, чтобы разобраться в неудачах или неправильны поступках ребенка,  критикуют его и даже жестко наказывают.  Случается, что в некоторых семьях родители несколько отстраненно-холодны  с  детьми, считая, что  излишнее «сюсюканье» только портит детей, а на самом деле лишают их эмоциональной близости, так важной в становлении личности.   Ведь любви много не бывает! Отсюда и возникают проблемы, родители недовольны детьми, дети отдаляются от родителей. А ведь вроде бы так просто – поговорить с ребенком, узнать, что ему  нравиться в ваших отношениях,  а что – нет,  чего он боится, о чем мечтает. Тогда вас минует опасность понять когда-нибудь, что в вашей семье два лагеря – вы, родители и он,- ваш ребенок.

Взаимоотношения родителей и детей
Как во всяких отношения, во взаимоотношениях  родителей и детей существуют и обязанности, и права. Об этом, вероятно, стоит поговорить особо. Самая главная обязанность родителей – это забота о ребенке, о его воспитании, развитии, здоровье.  Тесно взаимосвязаны с обязанностью родителей и их права: право на воспитание, на заботу о здоровье ребенка,  психическом, физическом и нравственном развитии. Это все закреплено юридически в Конституции страны и в Семейном кодексе РФ :«Забота о детях, их воспитание —  равно право и обязанность родителей» говорится в ст.38 ч.2 Конституции России.  Семейный Кодекс РФ указывает и на то, что родители не имеют права на жестокое, грубое, оскорбительное отношение к своим детям.

Но и ребенок тоже имеет свои права. Он их получает с момента рождения: это и право на имя, гражданство, на уважение личного достоинства, на защиту своих прав и т.д   Главная  же обязанность несовершеннолетнего ребенка – уважать своих родителей, слушаться их, принимать их заботу и воспитание. Конечно,  перечень прав и обязанностей родителей и детей намного шире, но формат нашей статьи не позволяет более глубоко рассмотреть юридическую сторону этого вопроса.

В заклчении разговора отелось бы вернуться к главной нашей теме – отношения в семье, отношения родителей и детей должны строиться, прежде всего, на любви, доверии и уважении. Это самый главный рецепт семейного счастья.

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